More positivity needed in the forums

[Haydenman]

At the moment, I am worried about my future and just from reading Jone's post something has snapped inside of me. I feel like I may never conquer PSSD and that even though I go to gym and eat healthier now what if I end up like he did all for naught. You see now why reading some of these forums can really screw with your mind. I don't blame the doctors but its where we fixated our attention that screws us.

I don't know about the rest of you, but this forum like another forum I used to frequent reeks of negativity and for me at least, it is easy to kill all hope for the future. In fact, just reading articles now make me feel so depressed.

I read http://www.pssdforum.com/viewtopic.php?f=10&t=1259 which made me hopeful.

Another user called Jones posted that he'd done a lot to help but PSSD just randomly came back. While we get that that can be terrible, at the same time, I really believe it would be a much nicer and positive experience if people kept in mind other users are depressed, suicidial and looking for hope. Does posting such negative stuff really help in the long run? It might momentarily help you feel better but others looking for hope may be the kick needed for them to give up.

And a lot of users say OH MY LIFE IS OVER BLUH BLUH but I mean how would you act if you did not have PSSD. Would you be happy? So in this case I think Jones had the right idea and even though his symptoms returned in my book he is a winner because he kept moving forward. I hope he regains the strength to go forward even with PSSD.

Though is does beg the question why. DId he suddenly have alcohol, I mean cumming twice during sex is a bit of a stretch. Does he meditate? Does he loosen tension in muscles. IS it truly the right partner? Does he always rely on viagra and was even cured to begin with? Does he use supplements? Does he exercise enough etc, etc, I could literally go on all day but I think each person is different. DOes he do sex correctly as in what he desires and not what he thinks he does. DOes he exercise his dick and practise getting erections and learn what he does and doesnt like in sex? ETC<<<

I also believe no one has done a heirachy of treatments which is so ridiculous. With all this time on your hands, surely someone must have thought of one.

I believe your well being and health can be maintained with the following:

Minimum of one fruit a day. An orange, an apple or w/e the f u have in ur house. EAT FRUIT.
Drop processed SHEISER. That stuff is cancer.
STOP drinking and stop having foods with high serotonin.
DO stuff you like. Engage in stuff you like. So I mean its easier for me as I dont have emotional anhedonia but I believe doing stuff you like helps immensely. I struggle with social anxiety disorder and well at the moment, I struggle with depression especially when I read these forums and don't get out enough.
Read more positive stuff, and try and avoid a lot of negativity on these forums. This can be the best thing you can do. Read some success stories and try and avoid stories about others who want to kill themselves etc,,,
Yoga, pilates, aqupuncture.


This is just the start, but in all honesty, I think with the above, even if you have PSSD, there are lots of people who live happy, successful lives. I talked to someone who hadnt had sex with their partner in 3 years. I don't know if they had pssd but it goes to show that PSSD is not always the be all end all of a relationship.

I hope I am not attacking anyone and in fact, this is unrelated to PSSD, but essentially I was injured by another person this year and was isolated as all heck. I have been unemployed for 8 months now but am looking at moving forward. It is scary to move forward and to have to go to businesses and ask for jobs. But it is also super satisfying. There is more to life, than reading negative stories on this forum.
I hope to see more positive stories in the future but am not holding my breath haha

I also believe its easy to give up. Anyone can do that. But to go forward even though you have a potentially focked on penis thanks to SSRI. Those people are inspirational. I wish I heard more stories like that, but thankfully i feel they are living life to the fullest and not visiting this forum. Gaining experience, exposure and rewiring their brains and re-healing the trauma that has been done. Perhaps PSSD is a symptom of a larger stressed as sheesa illnes that is western society living.

I'm not sure if I can be like that at all to be honest. Life scares me, PSSD scares me too. I hope I can find the courage and the hope to keep moving forward.

Lastly, if you are suicidal would taking SSRIS and if they worked for you be that bad? I got this after taking citalopram after 5 days. I was lied to by a dr who said that they help with panic attacks and that they do not cause any sexual side effects. Despite all that, I did have quite a bit of fun before I was injured. I guess atm I am trying to recover.

Some people do great on ssris or other meds. For me, they just numbed my emotions and dick and if anything made me appreciate having emotions.

I also feel bad for saying lots of this stuff. I guess I am also angry at having read such negative posts. People don't seem to realise that because they're super negative and telling horror stories, that it screws with other peoples happiness too like a virus. It does for me anyway. Lots of bad stuff exists on the net, and be thankful most of us living in ignorant bliss

[Jones]

Well, i believe this post is directed to me in a way.

To put things straight and to answer your questions:

I think it is optimal to post our experiences regarding PSSD, no matter if their bad or good.

Our own experiences are the only evidence we have for PSSD, and not sharing them would be devastating for our effort to figure out what's going on.

So you mean that whoever has a bad experience should not post about it, because it would make people feel sad?

I have a feeling that this forum is very truth-oriented and if youre looking for hope-exclusive posts and fairytales you can go to forums like surviving antidepressants.

PSSD is a very tough state, and many people even insist that it will be permenent for them.

I did not have a lot of alcohol, i did maditate, was in very good shape, reduced smoking to nearly 0 cigs.

Partner does not play a role in PSSD symptoms, although she can bring the best of your sexual self in surface if she is the right one, even with pssd.

Coming twice IN A ROW, was WAY TOO MUCH for my state and i could tell at the moment. My body had an EXTREME reaction immediately, and it felt like i took a pill of cipralex again. If you dont believe me, i understand, it sounds weird. But you can check similar stories of "crashing" due to overejaculation in propecia forums.

I dont know if i do sex correctly, since PSSD im mostly afraid to have a partner (apart from the year i felt better). I mostly have sex with women i do not care a great deal about, just for the sake of doing it and to "test" how my condition is progressing too.I know it doesnt sound good, and im really not that person. Believe me, i really want to have a true relationship with a girl and care about her with all my heart, but pssd is a huge barrier in that and i dont want to end up hurting myself emotionally.

I had a good quality of life last year, even though i still had (mild) pssd.

I DID NOT rely on viagra. I could have sex without it, but i would not describe myself as a stallion. I took viagra only when having sex with women i cared about, like my gf at the time. I have PTSD from getting PSSD, and i have developed moderate-severe performance anxiety, so viagra helps in reassuring.After all, i respond amazing to viagra and i feel blessed for that.

I had really recovered to a GREAT extent, considerably more than halfway to normal. Libido, sensation and pleaure wise, everything was very close to normal.
Things like e.d and functionality were still impaired, but much improved.

No, i do not exercise my dick. However, recently i started doing some light pelvic floor exercises.

Your recommendations sound very right! And i would urge everyone to follow them. I dont like to read things selectively though. Sometimes its best to be strong enough to face the truth, without that meaning that you lose hope of course.

Living in an ignorant bliss is an individual choice and not the way an objective forum like this should operate, imo.

I really hope you have a good healing and you go on with your life

[fema4psyciatrists]

Is it not positive that we have dared faced the truth to stand ourselves with an university of Ulm study, An Italian university of Milan study, an adverse effect charity prize campaign, Progesterone self-studies as well as a hopefully future PSSD foundation To look forward to?

and the tireless work that this forum and ghost have put in with complex educational videos and a burgeoning http://pssdlab.wordpress.com website.

We dared face the truth. And maybe just maybe, he who dares, wins.

[JayR]

The "negativity" is a natural consequence and mood state considering what the drugs did to the people on here.
.....But I agree if we saw a shift to optimism here it would help encourage real success.
One of my favorite things to say : "Those who doubt, fail themselves, in their heart and in their destiny".
I've found the same rings true in ANY objective, if you doubt, nothing you want will come to pass - if you believe, you will succeed, even if it takes time.
Its a tough thing to stray from doubt completely but resilience is something I've found in this population, and here, on this forum is a story of people who have tremendous courage and have taken the time to support others to find the same.